The dynamics of friendships are changing, and not only in terms of communication and socialization between two people, but also in terms of the sexual sphere, which today is much freer and free of taboos than in the past. Mutual masturbation, where friends or couples have fun together, is a new practice that is still not very widespread outside of the Western hemisphere.
It may seem strange, we know, but many people consider it a safe way to strengthen relationships, experiment with sexuality, or just spend time together. Thanks to this increasingly widespread practice, today we will talk about why mutual masturbation is becoming more and more common and what it means for couples and, especially, for friendships. We will also mention all the main positive aspects of this new and exciting trend.
Let’s Clarify
Mutual masturbation can be done in two ways. The softest one consists of watching each other while each one masturbates for their own pleasure, that is, without any contact between the parties.
It is the best solution if you are interested and want to propose it to a friend of yours or to someone with whom you are not particularly sexually confident.
Let’s say that it is the first step of fun, and setting limits on physical contact ensures that the situation does not degenerate.
The second, definitely closer to classic sexual dynamics, requires each one to masturbate the other until both parties reach orgasm.
The second solution is certainly much more satisfying than the first, where you limit yourself to watching, but the choice of a method depends on many factors, such as confidence, how much you like the person in front of you, your mood, etc.
Destroying Old Taboos
There have always been various taboos regarding some forms of approach to sexuality; we know this well, and it does not surprise us. As you can imagine, some of these rules are broken by mutual masturbation, which encourages people to be honest about their sexual needs and desires.
Clearly, proposing something like this to a friend or someone similar requires a high level of confidence, a similar level of libido, and, very importantly, the situation that triggers the desire to try this practice.
If you are lucky enough to be able to try this experience, talk to the person in front of you during masturbation and make requests; this will lead you to have even more intimacy and security during your fun sessions, plus it will open up a world to what other people’s sexual desires are.
Important: proposing this type of activity to a friend or acquaintance is not easy, so expect a no for an answer and do not be offended if you hit a brick wall. If you know someone you’d like to try it with, start by making a few jokes about it and let the woodworm you’ve created in their mind do its job. If you see that the response is positive, they joke about it too or make flirtatious glances, then go for it!
Consent and Communication
Consent and open communication are essential for mutual masturbation to work. It goes without saying that both parties must be comfortable and consenting to the act.
By encouraging your friend to honestly discuss their boundaries and expectations, mutual masturbation will be much better and safer for everyone involved.
Reducing Sexual Tension
Friendships can be complicated by sexual tension, and many of us have probably experienced it at least once.
Surely you have sat next to a friend at the movies and smelled her hair while you had an erection or something similar…well, the essential aspect of this practice is that mutual masturbation offers a way to resolve these emotions without committing to a serious relationship that we may not want. The orgasm releases our sexual energy, makes us lose interest in what was probably a passing desire dictated by the conditions we had around us, and helps us maintain a friendship with the person involved.
Another type of tension can arise from trying to convince a friend or acquaintance to approve of the experience. It’s certainly not easy, but we’ve given you a tip above, so arm yourself with courage and have fun 😉
If you’re not interested in a stable relationship, our advice is to avoid doing it with people who are very interested in you or with whom you could get entangled in romantic situations. Ask your ugly friend who turns you on… not the one you dream about at night.
Exploring Sexuality
Talking about sexuality and your tastes with a friend you trust can be useful and fun, regardless of the gender and sexual orientation of the person you are talking to. Mutual masturbation is a safe way to get to know your body and your tastes, and compare them with those of someone else outside your comfort zone.
This comparison can help you discover new practices, sensations, gestures, and tastes that you were not aware of before, making the picture of your sexual tastes more straightforward than ever.
It can also help you break down taboos, making you more confident and less shy in these moments.
Comparison, as we know, is the best way to grow.
Respecting Boundaries
Since it is a complex activity that requires full consent and a lot of attention and care, it is essential to respect each other’s limits, so when two people masturbate together, they should never feel forced or embarrassed. Friends should set clear boundaries and be aware of how comfortable they feel with each other; if one feels uncomfortable, everything should end as soon as possible.
Couples, conversely, can have carte blanche and dare even more, creating situations that can explode at any moment.
Try always to let it arise spontaneously, and if you see that it does not work, let it go.
Talking About Jealousy
Additionally, it makes sense to think that jealousy might occur if a friend begins to like someone else romantically. It’s essential to be honest about these feelings. Masturbating together can make distinguishing between friendship and romance difficult, so it’s important to talk about these feelings too (remember: focus on the ugly friend who gives you a hard-on, not the one you have a crush on.)
Maintaining Balance
Masturbating together can strengthen friends and couples, but it is important to maintain a balance, especially in the former. For this reason, friends should continue to do non-sexual things together and keep their friendship strong, while couples should try more experiences in general. This balance keeps their relationship interesting and not limited to just the sexual act.
Dealing with Judgments
As you know, society often looks down on people who do strange or new things, which is why people who hear about friends masturbating together might judge or misunderstand them. Since many would find it unusual, ensure you don’t tell too many people. Only share it with those you trust 100%, or better yet, no one at all. Being secretive is a sign of intelligence and seriousness.
Psychological Benefits
Mutual masturbation is suitable for your mental health. We’re not the only ones saying it. Many experts in the field have proven it through scientific research. In particular, receiving positive feedback from a friend in this situation can help people feel better about their bodies, increase their self-esteem, and reduce shyness towards the opposite sex. Based on what we’ve read from friends and acquaintances, or simply from friends who have tried this innovative practice, this practice has also helped them manage performance stress because they are more relaxed in the event of potential sexual failure.
My friend invited me, but I’m scared!!!
Well, that’s clear.
She didn’t invite you to make biscuits together but to watch you rub your sweaty dick.
I would say that having a little apprehension is normal.
What might happen to you usually involves erection problems and/or premature ejaculation.
There are many remedies for these, both natural and otherwise, but we always suggest the most natural approach possible.
To avoid running into these two situations, we advise you to maintain an active sexual life even when you are alone, continuing to stimulate your libido and the duration of your performances through quality masturbation.
We also recommend that you also look at some top solo porn sites where girls masturbating alone, so you can get into the mood of the situation before you even start.
If you have problems with premature ejaculation, before you show up for the appointment, jerk off, drink a glass of wine (or 2), and relax…you’re with your friend and she won’t judge you.
What if the situation doesn’t take off?
If you and your friend or company are unable to get into the right mood of excitement while masturbating together, there are several remedies you can use.
Our advice is this: start talking about your sexual fantasies and expectations before you even touch each other. Then change the subject and talk about the strangest and most exciting sexual experiences that have happened to you (you can even make them up, we don’t judge you), and start touching each other gently and sensually. Conclude however you want, but remember that creating an escalation of tension will make you appreciate the experience much more.
Alternatively, you can watch a nice porn video together, perhaps choosing one with niches that satisfy both of your tastes.
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