Anal sex can be a new and exciting experience, but it’s essential to approach it with care and preparation. With anal sex more popular than ever, both on porn sites and in real life, we decided to create a guide that will walk you through what you need to know to make sure your first time is a great one. We’ll cover everything from communication and consent, to hygiene and aftercare. So, let’s get started!
Good Communication and Consent
First and foremost, have an open and honest conversation with your partner or fuck buddy. You both need to be comfortable and excited about trying anal sex, as consent is key. If you feel like your partner has agreed to do it just for you, don’t even try; it’s better to play it safe and at least talk more. Make sure you’re both on the same page and always respect each other’s boundaries and concerns.
Preparation and relaxation
Tension and anxiety can make the experience unpleasant, so you should take the time to create a comfortable environment. Dim the lights, put on some relaxing music, or whatever puts you both in the mood, and proceed slowly.
Make the foreplay phase long and intense by stimulating your partner’s anus little by little with both your fingers and your tongue.
Do it slowly, trying to stimulate all of your partner’s erogenous zones, and only proceed when you see that her excitement reaches its peak. If you have done a good job, your partner’s hole will suddenly dilate on its own, making the whole thing much easier and more enjoyable.
Hygiene
Hygiene is crucial during sex, and although both should be careful before starting, for the person “receiving” penetration, it is even more important. It is essential to thoroughly sanitize the anal area before starting, both for a question of the bacterial load present, and to create a pleasant environment during intercourse free from odors or residues. To do this, you can use a delicate and quality soap and warm water and, even better, combine it with a special enema that can be purchased at the pharmacy. Although soap and water are sufficient for disinfection, a laxative enema a few hours before having intercourse will ensure that the colon is free from annoying fecal residues. If the subsequent anal cleaning is then carried out with a high-pressure shower, this will guarantee even greater cleanliness and tranquility. We recommend using delicate intimate soaps to avoid irritating the parts involved.
Use plenty of lubrication
It seems obvious, but it is not. The asshole does not produce natural lubrication like the pussy, so you must use a good quality lubricant. Water-based and silicone-based lubricants are excellent options, especially the latter, if you can find a quality one, of course.
I personally love those made with natural oils like almond or aloe, which are also available at any supermarket, health food store, or pharmacy. Before you begin, apply plenty of lube to both your partner and any sex toys you may be using. Also, make sure to reapply it as often as you need.
Use protection
You should also use condoms to protect yourself and your partner from STDs. Needless to say, this is especially true if you are sleeping with someone for the first time or if you are sleeping with someone whose sexual history you are not very familiar with. But even if you are in a committed relationship, using condoms prevents the spread of nasty and unwanted bacteria from the anus to the urethra or vagina.
If you want to go without, make sure to sanitize the areas involved, as we explained in detail above.
Position Matters
While many find that lying on their side or all fours works well for the first time, people also use other positions and techniques. To learn more, ask a question on some appropriate subreddits, check out adult forums, or maybe watch some porn on the subject; the internet is full of them.
After that, experiment with different positions to see which one works best for you and the person you are having anal sex with. Let’s say this point is secondary; once you have paved the way after the first few times, you will have enough confidence to start experimenting with new positions and role-playing.
Take Your Time
As with any other sexual experience, rushing can and probably will ruin it. But when it comes to anal, this aspect is even more important. Simply put, anal sex isn’t something you need to rush into because it’s a sexual activity that’s much more delicate than oral or PIV sex. Also, remember that there’s no pressure to get everything right on the first try. Every person is different, and what works for one person might not work for another, so be patient with yourself and your partner.
Aftercare
In our opinion, aftercare is just as important as preparation. Once you’re done, take some time to relax and cuddle with your partner, during which you can sincerely discuss how you felt during the experience. Once that is done, clean yourself gently with warm water and soap, and maybe even apply a soothing aloe vera gel or something similar.
Building Trust and Intimacy
Anal sex can deepen trust and intimacy in a relationship, as this is something that almost no one will do unless they trust the other person very much. This is because anal penetration requires a high level of communication and mutual respect, no matter the gender and the sexual orientation of the people involved.
Final Thoughts
To conclude, trying anal sex for the first time can be a positive and enjoyable experience if approached with care and preparation. Focus on communication, relaxation, and using plenty of lube, among all the other things we’ve mentioned. We’re sure that if you pay attention to all the things we’ve talked about today and manage to take it very slowly with your partner, everything will be okay in the end. Also, keep in mind that you might not like it at all, or that only one of you might like it.
